Love Finds Its Way at Oxbow Lake – Again

Barb Hemberger • October 14, 2025

It’s not every day that you get to say there’s something in the water at Saint Therese of Oxbow Lake, but maybe there is. Because once again, love has bloomed among its residents. This July, two familiar faces said, “I do,” marking the second time in just a few years that neighbors became newlyweds within this Brooklyn Park community.


The first resident couple to marry at Oxbow Lake exchanged vows a few years ago, setting a joyful precedent. And now, Frank Barry and Nancy Cullen have joined their ranks — proving that companionship and joy don’t fade with time; they simply take new forms.

 

Finding Each Other at Home

Both Frank and Nancy had lived full lives before moving to Oxbow Lake. Each had lost a beloved spouse — Frank’s wife, Julie, passed away in January 2024, and Nancy’s husband several years before. When Nancy moved into the community two years ago, and Frank three, neither imagined that life here might lead to a new marriage.


But as Oxbow Lake Executive Director Christine DeLander put it, “People come from all walks of life and they meet a companion here. The sense of community is strong. Residents take it upon themselves to socialize; every floor hosts its own weekly get-together, and once a month we bring everyone together for an independent living social. It’s very resident-driven.”


A Dance, a Smile, and a Second Chance

Their story actually began some time ago, when Frank’s late wife, Julie, introduced him to Nancy. The two only crossed paths briefly then, but life found a way for them to reconnect.


After Julie passed away, Frank admits he struggled to adjust. “When Julie died, I fell apart,” he recalled. “One of my friends kept saying, ‘Get over yourself and find a date for the senior prom!’” (The Senior Prom was a big event Oxbow Lake held each year.)


Eventually, he took that advice and asked Nancy. “She was in a cast, and we still danced,” he said. It was an easy, lighthearted evening that marked the beginning of a comfortable companionship, something steady and kind that simply fit.


From there, the friendship grew naturally — a quiet understanding that deepened over time. “We just get along,” Frank said. “We haven’t had a fight yet.”


Nancy smiled. “It’s nice to have someone around who helps with little things, who shares the moments; like celebrating my son’s birthday or just sitting together at dinner.”

 

A Joyful Celebration

The couple’s July 26 wedding in the Oxbow Lake chapel was an intimate, joy-filled event — complete with careful planning, place cards, and a family seating chart drawn up by Frank himself. Nearly all of their extended family were there to celebrate. “My eldest grandson was the maître d’,” he said proudly. “He had a map for everything.”


The ceremony was presided over by Father Pat Grile of St. Alphonsus Catholic Church in Brooklyn Center,  where Frank has been a lifelong parishioner. Fellow Oxbow Lake resident Father Bill Green also attended as a guest. “Technically, we were married at St. Alphonsus,” Frank explained, “but the celebration continued right here at Oxbow.”


More than 100 guests filled both the chapel and dining room, with tables and folding chairs carefully arranged to fit everyone in. 

The Adventure Continues

After the festivities, the couple escaped north to Grand View Lodge in Nisswa for a honeymoon getaway — a peaceful retreat before returning home to their community at Oxbow Lake.


Back in their familiar halls, they’re enjoying life together while still maintaining their independence. “We’re both self-reliant,” Nancy said. “We each have our own income, our own interests. We just enjoy being together.”


And as for the community that brought them together? Christine said, “Love happens here. When people feel connected, when they’re supported — that’s when the magic happens.”


Congratulations to Frank and Nancy — may your days be filled with laughter, faith, and friendship.

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